It REALLY hurts!  But what can a person do to handle it emotionally? If the couple has been living together, whether married or not, it’s a very sticky situation all readers of this can agree, because there are so many, many details to deal with (practical ones added on top of the emotional upheaval).. But, even if it […]


Theresa May, the British Prime Minister, is having her government address what is called a “modern health scourge.” She states that her country is not the only one whose health and welfare are being affected by loneliness. Yes, loneliness doesn’t only affect your mental health but may affect your physical health and longevity as well. […]

“JUST DO IT” IN 2019

Each New Year makes us think about ways to improve our future. What would help you to be happier in 2019 and beyond? Start with one way in which you would like to see your life different and try to figure out how to make it happen. Plan the steps and be sure to include […]


Opening vividly-wrapped packages of varying sizes and shapes can be exhilarating and  festive.  That is typically what gift-giving is like for most of us.  But there are gifts that you can receive while you are giving usually without the pretty wrapping.  The following are some that would fit in an envelope:   Theater tickets for […]


The two main reasons are: 1) Past holidays were unpleasant (especially while we were growing up) so each one reminds us of past ones. This is often based on Hollywood glamorizing family life making us think we are missing that perfect happy family who hugs, kisses, talks gayly and caringly with each other and gives […]

Thanksgiving Thoughts

By Terry Hefter, LCPC The first thing we think about is the turkey, right? Or, maybe the family togetherness? For some it’s the historical value that makes this day special. For many the essential feature of this holiday is the spiritual overtone. These people give thanks for the food on the table — not only […]

Resolving Division Of Labor Disagreements For Couples Who Live Together

First, address ways each partner can understand self and other as it relates to this topic: 1. Each make a list of who did these tasks in family-of-origin (or maybe someone was hired to do them): a. laundry b. grocery-shopping c. loading and unloading the dishwasher (or washing the dishes by hand) d. making the […]

Mother’s Day Thoughts

What most mothers want from their children is a showing of affection. A nice extra is an expression of appreciation. But most children take their mothers for granted. It’s just expected by them that parents supply needs and wants to their children. So all that immense time, effort, money, and sacrifice is something a mother […]

Suggestions For Couple Disagreements

Communication between couples vs arguments If you and/or your partner feel your frustration rising request a “time out” by saying something like, “I need to take 5 minutes off (or 10 minutes, if you prefer) so we can calm down” During the “time out” both should take a few deep, slow breaths, letting them out […]