“JUST DO IT” IN 2019

Each New Year makes us think about ways to improve our future. What would help you to be happier in 2019 and beyond? Start with one way in which you would like to see your life different and try to figure out how to make it happen. Plan the steps and be sure to include […]

7 GIFTS YOU GIVE TO YOURSELF WHILE GIVING TO ANOTHER

Opening vividly-wrapped packages of varying sizes and shapes can be exhilarating and  festive.  That is typically what gift-giving is like for most of us.  But there are gifts that you can receive while you are giving usually without the pretty wrapping.  The following are some that would fit in an envelope:   Theater tickets for […]

WHY ARE HOLIDAYS SO DIFFICULT FOR SO MANY PEOPLE?

The two main reasons are: 1) Past holidays were unpleasant (especially while we were growing up) so each one reminds us of past ones. This is often based on Hollywood glamorizing family life making us think we are missing that perfect happy family who hugs, kisses, talks gayly and caringly with each other and gives […]

Thanksgiving Thoughts

By Terry Hefter, LCPC The first thing we think about is the turkey, right? Or, maybe the family togetherness? For some it’s the historical value that makes this day special. For many the essential feature of this holiday is the spiritual overtone. These people give thanks for the food on the table — not only […]

Resolving Division Of Labor Disagreements For Couples Who Live Together

First, address ways each partner can understand self and other as it relates to this topic: 1. Each make a list of who did these tasks in family-of-origin (or maybe someone was hired to do them): a. laundry b. grocery-shopping c. loading and unloading the dishwasher (or washing the dishes by hand) d. making the […]

Mother’s Day Thoughts

What most mothers want from their children is a showing of affection. A nice extra is an expression of appreciation. But most children take their mothers for granted. It’s just expected by them that parents supply needs and wants to their children. So all that immense time, effort, money, and sacrifice is something a mother […]

“It’s Not What You Say But How You Say It”

A familiar comment we’ve all heard. We may be quick to say or think this of others but what about you? Does your voice tone convey unkindness to people? Do people tell you that you have “an attitude?” If so, does it bring you pleasure to have “an attitude?” Do you think you have good […]

Why Are Many Parents Overly Critical?

Because they think that to be a good parent they must be constantly watchful in order to teach their children. They see correcting them as loving and a parent’s job. Or, sometimes it is because the parent wants the child to make the parent proud, to show the world that the parent is a good […]

How Can Parents Deal With Adolescents?

The answer is not as simple as we would like it to be but also not as difficult as we sometimes think. The main answer is that old word “communication.” But what does this overused word really mean when it comes to your teenager? It means encouraging your son or daughter to not just talk […]